Tuesday, March 23, 2010

why men cheat.

Men’s tendency to cheat is one of the most common and the most painful and common issues that women have with men. While some women can recount numerous relationships during which they found out that their partner was cheating on them, others are afraid that their current lover will betray their trust and have an affair at one point or another.

It is unrealistic to believe that there is a way to fully protect and "insure" yourself from being cheated on, but I strongly believe that understanding the reasons behind the sexual behavior of a typical, modern man in a western society is important for at least two reasons: (1) it will decrease the probability that you will be cheated on by the guy you are dating; and (2) it will help you handle yourself and the situation much better if your current or future partner does end up having an affair.

Here are the top three reasons why men cheat:

1. The first and by far the most common reason why men cheat has nothing to do with the woman that they are cheating on. Most men are driven by this powerful natural force to seek novelty and variety when it comes to sexual partners. There is more to that drive than just seeking pleasure; desire to be liked and attract women is one of the most significant ways through which men are able to validate their masculinity and sense of self worth. This has always been, is, and will always be at the core of male nature among humans and many other living beings. For some men this stage of life is short, and by late 20’s or early 30’s they "snap" out of it, while other men continue to “play” for much longer or even for the rest of their active lives. Thus, no matter how wonderful their girlfriend or wife is going to be, they will not stop pursuing new interactions with women and new sexual experiences. Nothing will replace the excitement of, and the satisfaction from, having new experiences with new female partners, and it would be pointless to try to change such a guy. After all, it is not in a woman's power to change a man's nature.

2. The second reason is painfully simple but surprisingly common - many women are simply not good enough in bed to keep their partner sexually happy, excited and satisfied. They don’t know what they are doing with their bodies, hands and mouth. Few men will stick around and appreciate a woman who is a mediocre sex partner. I have seen many guys dump very beautiful women for that exact reason. Those women’s beauty was “neutralized” by their incompetence or their behavior during intimacy that chilled romance. A woman who ruins a special moment by saying something inappropriate or irrelevant or simply giggling during or right before sex will rarely get a second chance. Very few men will be blunt and open enough to criticize a woman’s performance in bed. Thus, it’s your duty to explore your sexuality, to be curious about men and gain that knowledge and skills which will make you a great lover.

3. Finally, some women unfortunately have nothing else to give but their beauty and sex. Some men will lie about how much they like that woman in order to get sex from her, while others will be sincerely blinded by attraction and will truly believe that they want to get to know that woman even though all they are attracted to is her body. However, shortly after getting sex from that woman, these men will realize that there is nothing else that they want from her and they will be eager to get away from her as soon as possible.

Have you ever been cheated on before? If so, look back at the three big reasons why men cheat and try to figure out what reasons drove that guy toward being with another woman. While it's possible that you are just not meant to be together and whatever happened between the two of you is the neither your fault nor his, it's possible that one of the above three reasons for cheating applies to your dating situation.


http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-men-cheat

Monday, February 8, 2010

repost

WHY LIKE THAT?

TODAY: LIFE IS FAIR.


On Becoming:

Today, I will stop on convincing myself that It will be easy.
Life couldn't get better since it is difficult since Day one.

Today, I will stop on saying to hold on, hang on and It will be okay.
Because I don't know how hard it is for others.

Today, I will avoid saying It'll get better,
because I have no control over anything.

Today, people might not agree with whatever i say. But hell, they don't know anything about what im going through either.

Today, I will not suppress myself when I want to whine
because I'm only human and I have feelings too.

Today, I will try not to hope because It sucks to expect.

Today, I won't push myself too hard. I am not your slave. And Im not living for you.

Today, I will be deaf so i wouldn't get affected by all the problems I hear.

Today, I will be numb because Im so tired of hurting.

Today, I will cry when I feel like crying because I know you won't be there to keep me company.

Today, I will hear you and forget it after you said it.



Today, I will drink a bottle of Red Wine because wine makes me calm, and you don't.

Today, I will transform my bedroom depending on what era I want to live in.

Today, I will only talk to those who deserves my time.

Today, I will avoid sugarcoating and say things bluntly. The hell I care right? You'd hurt me in a snap too.

Today, I will leave those people who doesn't make me happy. I've no space left for you.

Today, I will do the things that will exhaust me lesser. If you want me to do this, Ikaw naka-isip-- So ikaw gumawa.

Today, I will try less because I'll keep on convincing myself that people will appreciate what I do for them but at the end of the day, Im still the bad person.

Today, I won't give more than what I can offer since Enough is never enough.

Today, I will be myself, do things for myself, do what will make me happy
because Life is not about living for others who doesn't know anything but take you for granted.

Today, I will spend money for myself without feeling the guilt.

Today, I will talk fervently to God since I know He's the only one who will never forsake me.

Today, I will live for myself. and not for others.

Today, I will celebrate my being beautiful not through the eyes of others, but by Him and me.

Today, I will be me. I will be happy. I will make life fair.


Written by: Margieanne Monica Carrillo Salamatin

Monday, February 1, 2010

FOTD : Sultry Valentines






EYES :

Urban Decay's Primer Potion (entire lid upto the brow bone)
NYX Jumbo Pencil in French Fries(colored base on the lid only)
Nars Galapagos e/s (on top of French fries)
Nars Caravaggio duo e/s (use the violet color on the entire mid crease, blending & smudging it in the lower lashline)
MAC's Top Knot e/s (on the outer 'v' of the lid and outer 1/3 of the lower lashline)
Facefront Cosmetics in Skinny Dipper (Highlight color on the browbone area)
MAC's Dark Devotion e/s (eyebrows)
Urban Decay's 24/7 Glide on pencil in Zero (upper and lower lashline, and waterline )
Maybelline Colossal mascara in black

FACE :

MAC's Studio Sculpt concealer in NC42
MAC's Studio Sculpt foundation in NC40
MAC's Mineralize skinfinish in Refined (highlight)
NARS Laguna bronzer (contour)
MAC's Bronzing powder in Refined Golden (Bronzer)
MAC's Mineralize Blush in Light over Dark (cheeks)
MAC's Loose Iridescent powder in Golden Bronze (apples of the cheek only)

LIPS :

MAC's Lipstick in Creme Cerise

FOTD : Deep Passion












Urban Decay's Primer Potion (entire lid upto brow bone)
NYX Jumbo Pencil in Black bean (colored base on the lid only)
MAC's pigment in Deep Blue Green (on the lid)
MAC's Solar bits in Impassioned (on the mid crease)
MAC's Dark Devotion e/s (outer 'v' fading it in to the crease area)
Facefront Cosmetics in Skinny dipper (highlight)
MAC's Brow Pencil in Stud (eyebrows)
Urban Decay's 24/7 Glide on pencil in Zero (upper lashline)
Stila Kajal eyeliner in Onyx (waterline)
Maybelline Collosal mascara in black

FACE :

MAC's Studio Sculpt concealer in NC42
MAC's Studio Sculpt foundation in NC40
Nars Laguna Bronzer (contour)
MAC's Hello Kitty blush in Fun & Games (cheeks)
MAC's Mineralize skinfinish in Perfect topping (highlight)


LIPS :

Benefit Lipstick in Lady's choice


Update

Hello my darlings! I know i have said that i will update you with my makeup looks, but i got lazy (as always),, even thou there's really nothing to be lazy about. i'm not working at the moment. I hope I'll soon get hired! urgh.. cause this isnt fun for me at all. so anyways, ill keep up with my looks and hopefully this will make u understand why i am MIA for the moment. ciao! =)

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

FOTD : Golds and Purples





HELLO MY GORGEOUS!!!



i know it has been a good while since i did the last update, but im back!!! and excited to do what i know i excel at which is makeup! i hope u like what i did and tell me what u think.


EYES :

NYX Jumbo Pencil in Milk (primer, from lid to browbone)
MAC's Paint in Base light (base on the lid)
MAC's Tempting e/s (lid color)
MAC's Sketch e/s (wash of color in midsection of crease)
MAC's Shadowy Lady e/s (outer 'v' fading it into the crease area)
MAC's Carbon e/s (outermost corner)
MAC's Soft Force e/s (highlight&inner tear duct)
MAC's Brow Pencil in Stud (eyebrows)
Urban Decay's 24/7 Glide on pencil in Zero (upper lashline)
Stila Kajal eyeliner in Onyx (waterline)
Maybelline lash stiletto mascara in black

FACE :

MAC's Studio Sculpt concealer in NC42
MAC's Studio Sculpt foundation in NC40
MAC's Bronzing powder in Refined Golden (contour)
MAC's Loose Iridescent Powder in Golden Bronze (cheeks)


LIPS :

MAC's Lipstick in Myth
MAC's Lipgelee in Goldensoft